The object lesson starts with rocks in a jar. The jar looks full, but then gravel is added to fill in the spaces. Then sand fills in more spaces and water fills in the rest. The order is crucial. One of my writer groups proposed this lesson and challenged us to contemplate our rocks. What I saw most was the jar. Whatever you put inside and even if the order is wrong, there is still only so much room in the jar.
I don’t believe there is anything magical about setting New Years resolutions, however, I am a fan of setting goals to improve life. My husband and I were talking about goals for 2010. I had a long list: improve writing skills, study social work system to improve my job, drink more water and exercise consistently… My husband said, “Wow. You have a lot of goals this year.” When I asked him what his goals for this year are he said, “My goals are simple this year. I only have one – to survive.” This surprised me. If anyone has ever been able to set goals and achieve them it has been my husband. He is very disciplined and hard-working. Maybe he deserves a year off.
It made me wonder if my goals were too many. Perhaps I am trying to shove more stuff into the jar then it can hold. Maybe that’s why I often feel overwhelmed. After all, we only have so much time in the day.